Saturday, January 23, 2010

Suicide... Another kind of family crisis.



I am currently working with teens who are depressed and have been at one time suicidal. It is an illness just as devastating as cancer or muscular dystrophy. It is a true family crisis when a teen has a behavior the parent cannot see or cannot change. It makes the family feel helpless and at a loss.

Consider this book for another point of view for parents who wonder what teen depression means to a family, especially if the end result is suicide.

A Parent's Guide for Suicidal and Depressed Teens: Help for Recognizing if a Child is in Crisis and What to Do About It By Kate Williams
Here is a review from Amazon.com :


Drawing from personal experience, Kate Williams provides support for parents seeking help for their teen . Williams helps parents recognize the signs of a child in crisis, how to find immediate and effective help, and how to deal with ongoing adolescent issues.




  • Customer Reviews
    Needed addition in suicide literature This is the first book I've seen that looks at a suicide attempt from the family's perspective. In so doing, it acknowledges the family's terror, the stigma issues the family faces, and the family's love for their child as they struggle to try to understand and help.


  • Williams helps parents explore their own feelings about suicide, encourages parents to overcome their reluctance to reach out for help and support, then discusses suicide issues and therapeutic approaches.


  • On one hand, the book seems too simplistic. It doesn't discuss the impact of the suicidal person's moods and behaviours on the family; the terrifying roller coaster of therapists and medication before the right combination is found; the families torn as they try to help their precious child.


  • But the author's calm, compassionate presentation may be the more useful and helpful approach, particularly for parents who have never been to any kind of mental health professional and are afraid of being blamed for their child's behaviour.

Visit www.amazon.com to order your copy or to check on their list of other titles with similar topics. Teens can be challenging, but as parents we are responsible for their well being. Read what you can and seek professional assistance if your teen has symptoms of depression, a change in behavior, or you are concerned for their safety. You may save a life.


Sunday, January 17, 2010

Book of Prayers coming soon



  • We are now almost one month into the New Year. Not a one of us wants to have to deal with a serious health related issue in 2010 but the reality of life is that some of us will.

I believe in being positive and proactive with our health. Make time to get your yearly health exams done. Visit your physician if you feel a lump, a mass, or experience pain that cannot be explained. And monitor your children for the same. Life is unfair, and children do become seriously ill. It is important for early diagnosis for both adults and children for many diseases seen today.

But when you do have to face the fear of diagnosis and treatments, where do you go for support? I think most of us regardless of our religious beliefs will turn to some form of prayer to help us with the crisis. I don't attempt to be an expert on religion and I don't want to mistake my faith for yours, however, I think we all seek comfort from a higher power than ourselves.

I have partnered with another writing friend to offer comfort and support for those who need it during an illness or health crisis. We will soon be offering books written from our hearts to yours to help you through specific diagnoses and treatments. Look for these to be published in 2010.

2010 will bring us closer and I will continue to supply you with resources and inspiration through whatever trials come your way. As you know, I have a passion for helping you and your child deal with childhood illnesses. Visit the blog often for encouragement, book reviews, and health related information for you and your children. Here is to a better 2010 no matter what life throws our way.

Sunday, January 10, 2010

New Year... New Goals...More resources and support for parents and kids dealing with illness.



Welcome 2010.. bring on the New Year with gusto even for those of us dealing with loss, illness, and pain. Everyday is a new day, a lesson in living, and in some cases a lesson in how to die with love and dignity.

I have been lax in posting the past few months, not from lack of desire to provide but more from a lack of time. I have been working with special needs children who are ventilator dependent or who have extensive special needs and I have been helping to bring them home.

As a nurse in a pediatric home care agency, you see first hand what families deal with and how they cope. Not all coping is healthy. I have learned wonderful lessons and seen total dysfunction, but every day I have learned.

From my lessons as a nurse, I will again post as often as possible offering resources for parents and kids who are dealing with illness and special needs on a daily basis. I will also be offering pieces of a couple of children's books that I am working on.

I have seen a huge lack in books and resources for children, written for their level and addressing the fears and facts that children dealing with illness are asking for and deserve. I hope to be able to provide a series of books for children dealing with things like cancer, muscular dystrophy, and other childhood diseases based on facts woven with fictional characters that kids can relate to.

Parents may have a difficult time speaking to the emotional aspect of what children feel, largely because parents are dealing with their own emotions. I hope to help kids relate to fictional characters who have the illnesses or problems their friends or siblings may be experiencing and offer a link to helping them cope.

I will keep you posted here with excerpts and progress. I will also keep you updated on as much new medical material as I can find, books, resources, websites, and anything else I can find to help.

Looking forward to reaching you and expanding to more readers with heartfelt words to help.

P.S. The bears and future pictures may depict Alaska because I have dreams of going there in 2011 for some writing and researching. The pictures help me to focus on my goal and encourage me to work towards it especially when times get tough. What can you use to help you focus and look ahead to a better time?