Sunday, November 7, 2010

Things to Consider This Holiday.....

It's a fact, the holidays are already upon us and some of you may be feeling the pressure of what foods to make, what gifts to buy, and where you will find the time and money to do all the things that YOU think you need to do for the holidays. If you have a sick family member especially a child, it is time consuming and only adds to your stressed out feelings this time of year. Consider this....

It takes from 5 hours to 25 hours to prepare a Thanksgiving meal that is eaten in less than 7 minutes.

Baking, wrapping, shopping, and cooking take up the better part of two months and the gifts are unwrapped in less than 60 seconds, and the percentage that are returned in the 24 hours after the holiday is staggering.

Those facts alone make you want to reconsider how you spend your time and money. Remember that time spent with a loved one can more than make up for a store bought gift. Several small  gatherings over finger foods and cookies can be more relaxing than one big bash that exhausts the hostess.

What works for your family and your situation is what your holiday should entail. Don't let the media or well intended relatives dictate how you spend the holidays this year especially if you are dealing with a sick loved one during this time. And don't feel pressured to spend more than you have just because it is the holiday.

1. Make your holiday meaningful by giving smaller token gifts to family and friends . It is less expensive and will show how much you care. A special ornament, your prize homemade fudge, a bottle of wine, or unique picture frame make wonderful small gifts.

2. Be prepared for the kinks in the month that are sure to come. The unexpected fever, a hospitalization, or any number of health related incidents can come up when you have a sick child. Don't let those ruin your holiday spirit, instead roll with it. The holidays are the holiday when you can be with family and enjoy... if it doesn't happen on the scheduled day don't fret.

3. Homemade gifts are wonderful and thoughtful. Spending time with the kids making cookie mixes and layering them in jars is one way to get the gifts done, involve the kids, and spend quality time at home. There are many good recipes online and in cookbooks for layer cookie mixes, soup mixes, and dips.

4. Books make great gifts as hostess gifts, thank you gifts, or teacher gifts and gifts for family members too. Check out the discount sections of your local book store for great bargins for both adults and children.

5. Family first... keeping that motto during the holiday can be the best advice you ever get. What is best for your child's health and the well being of your family should be the most important item on your holiday list. Don't feel guilty if you need to say no to events or parties that will just put too much pressure on you at this time.

6. Allow others to offer to help and then allow yourself to accept it graciously. If a neighbor or grandparent offers to sit with your sick child for a few hours to give you some time to attend to holiday things with the other members of your family, do it and don't feel the guilt.

Most of all, parents of a child who is seriously ill during the holiday season already feel the pressure. Keep things simple. Quality time together may mean a holiday in the hospital, but that's what works this year. Let go of past expectations and grab the golden ring of this holiday. Be grateful, spend time in conversation, and love each other. Isn' that what really makes the holidays so special in the end?


Susanne Drazic said...

Wonderful holiday tips. thanks for sharing.

terri.forehand said...

Thanks Susanne, for visiting. Hope you have a great holiday season.